Who is an ADD/ADHDer and the other person in your relationship is not? How do they handle it?
my poor wife says the only strategy is to pray for patience.
in fact, however, she helps me a lot, tho i am not always as appreciative as i should be.
recommend melissa orlovs book, the adhd effect in marriage, especially the second half on working together.
My wife and I laugh a lot, it really helps. I second Doug's suggestion about Melissa's book!
patience and lots of beer :) lol
lol thats true Joe :P just kidding ;-)
However, I try to be aware that my guy is just another person trying to make it day to day. I'm no walk in the park either. I just want to understand him as much as I love him.
My poor husband says that after 30 years I "should know" all I can say is after 30 years he should realize AD/HD is REAL And I REALLY DON'T REMEMBER!!!!
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this is a good place to learn about ADD.
there's also a lot of good books, including The ADHD Effect on Marriage.
have you considered counseling?
I have to agree with Doug. I think you should probably consider the counseling. I wonder, is she leading you to believe that there may be a chance that you all can reconcile? I think before I would agree to do that (because of her past) I would insist that the two of you go to couples counseling. There's just to much at stake where your daughter is concerned and you need to know that your ex is going to be willing to put in the work.
Just my opinion.