how did YOU know that you needed to get over your: intimidations, inhibitions, "i-don't-know-how-to's"

[janne wallace]

my destined journey to arrive at the get of help was when: i really knew i was 2 steps short of dying.
it is a level of measure that i had been at many a times..
before..
since then-i've learned to: measure better, "give credit where credit is due" (ty miss k!) and don't do life-to the embetter of oneself (myself)
without support from people who too of themselves-need so show up thriving vs surviving-of their lives.
TBC
janne w

[Miss K]

I think I was about 9 when I started to have to learn not to get in my own way. It was the first time in my life when stress became too much and it was clear that it was making decisions for me, instead of the other way around.

Even now, that's how I think about it...I think "am I making this decision, or is my anxiety making this decision for me". In that way, I've been able to push myself to try many things that seemed scary to me at first.

[janne wallace]

your wayward sounds very intuitive-as well as skilled of knowing who you are-and what you're made of, really made of-great for you!
janne

[Miss K]

Well, I had some help at that point. My parents/teachers sent me to a school psychologist so I could learn about how to be more objective about analyzing my own behavior and whether it was working for me, or holding me back. So...again, gotta give credit where credit it due, and the credit there goes to the adults in my life who figured out I needed a helping hand. However, in my adult life, I have retained these lessons and still use them...

Sounds like what you are saying is that had to sort of "hit bottom" to see that your life wasn't working for you. I think that's true for a lot of people...and I've had some other issues that I had to hit that way too, in order to see that they weren't working. In college I used to drink a lot to cover up my anxiety, and my discomfort with having to deal with people (I didn't understand how they worked!). I hit bottom when I realized how lonely I was...I only had drinking buddies, but had no friends. At that time, I thought again about the lessons I learned when I was younger, and saw that I needed to keep using them...instead of making myself unhappy...

Everyone has their own moments of realization :)

[janne wallace]

yeah-i agree-and understand-esp about the drinking buddies vs having real friends-i'm not a drinker-my parents were-but since-have stopped
it's better that they did-by many a way:)
janne