ADDer's & low frustration tolerance

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Comment by Jessica on December 5, 2009 at 1:49am

My staff drves me crazy. Sometimes I feel like they just don't get it. They ask me the same questions ten times a day, the when they do something wrong, they blame it on my co manager. (I work in retail by the way.) When there is a lot of work to do, it takes them an hour to hang a size run of jeans or 10 minutes to ring someone up. Not all of them are like this, just the ones who can work the most. Sometimes, I just want to put an adderrall in their drink to get them moving, but I could never do that. Maybe I'll start stocking the fridge with red bull.

Comment by designergrl on October 21, 2009 at 1:23pm

hello everyone,I definately see ME in all your responses.I just got off the phone with a partner, calling her at work saying"Did i not get the memo about Boycott Brandy week?"And a near argument ensued.She Usually calls daily or every other day...but then will let me know if really busy and I won't hear from her.

That is kinda what I Needed from her..to do just that so I don't freak,But she called me a control freak trying to pin her down.She listed at least 6 major things going on right now...reminded me that she does Not have to tell me everything that goes on in her life (even*I* don't with all my friends)...and When She Has time, she will call.

Oh...and that it had ONLY been 48 hours since we last spoke.


oh.(hangs head)SOooooooo embarrassed at my freak out behavior.I've done it a lot lately and don't like who I am when I am like this.

I am retired...my partner/best friend works 13 hrs a day 5-6 days a week...so do a lot of my friends.TIME goes by really slow for me.

So, I have just written myself all kinds of colorful notes and oinned them around my apartment...Telling myself to count to 100 when feeling a freak coming on..then rinse and repat if needed.I also wrote that(and Dated it) my s.o. is going thru xy and z at moment to Not forget it!It is Not Personal.

Gee, I may get to like this group. ;)

Toodles from a noodle...

Brandy

Comment by Lisa U on September 11, 2009 at 3:58am

So I'm pushing my grocery cart out to my truck and a woman backing out her car is waiting for me to pass. I'm almost 2 parking spots away from her, my vehicle is in the next row over, and she's waiting, waiting, waiting. It's Thursday, 10 pm, no cars are parked in front of or to either side of this 20-something woman. She could easily pull forward & leave. But no, she's either a good, law abiding citizen or high. She'll wait to back out of her parking spot and keep giving me the 'hurry up' look. Pulling forward would require 2 or more synapses of common sense out of her pea-sized brain.

In the words of Ron White, "you can't fix stupid". I'm not the sharpest knife in the drawer at times; however, the day in, day out, chronic level of stupid or inconsideration in people makes me mind-numbingly, bat sh*t crazy.

Comment by Melissa Raines on March 15, 2009 at 9:27pm

Hello everyone , my name is melissa , I'm 28 yrs old & have deal with all the challanges that come with being ADD . The fact that mate ( whom I've been with for 8 yrs) is ADHD himself does make for challanges . Then you add the fact tha my mate is also OCD & the challanges start mounting . There are days where I just want to pull my hair out , because my mate is incredibly unorganized ( which is the ADHD in him - then there are days where the ADHD doesn't seem to be there but the OCD is , the OCD is a littl more of challange for me to handle because of the fact that it takes so more concentration for me to deal with , having to pay attention to every detail , everything having to be perfect , most of the time I can deal with my mates OCD but then there are days when i'm dealing with my own aggrovations & my own frustrations and dealing with my matesOCD just seems to be too much - that's when my frustions and low tollerence comes out & I kinda turn into a witch.

Comment by Fran Ruh on March 15, 2009 at 5:31pm

This is to Belle. My name is Fran, and I do not have depression, but I do have anxiety. My feeling is that any good psychiatrist by talking to you is able to diagnose you. I hope that you are going to a psychiatrist who is knowledgeable about ADHD, and not afraid to use the medication freely, so that you will get the maximum benefits from your meds. Take Care!!!!!!!

Comment by Fran Ruh on March 15, 2009 at 5:25pm

Hi - My name is Fran. ADHD and comorbity means is that plus your ADHD you have other disorders. I have a severe case of inattentive ADHD, plus OCD and anxiety (which are the other disorders). I do not suffer from depression. I do take klonopin for my anxiety, and that seems to work with me. I take 3 (5 mgs.) twice day. If I don't need the second medication, I don't take it. Also klonopin is very cheap. Take care!!!

Comment by Hzjewl on February 6, 2009 at 6:09am

I do. I've known I had d & a for awhile but only recently got diagnosed w adhd. They're called co-morbid conditions, but I think they're all apart of the same.

Comment by Belle on February 5, 2009 at 10:54pm

Does everyone who has adhd have depression and anxiety? Why do they diagnose it seperately?

Comment by Neil White on January 24, 2009 at 12:27am

Jake, good job at restraining yourself. I would hope the next step would be that you not stop at all and let it go. I think we as ADD'ers always want to be right and prove everyone else wrong. I realise you can hold your own but you never know who or what your up against. I come across people like this everyday and I've learned to laugh it off and realise how stupid they were, you'll never change them! Keep up the good work and keep posting, I like hearing what you have to say. Keep cool buddy.

Comment by jake on January 23, 2009 at 11:52pm

I talked a roadrager into getting back in his truck and driving away. We were in a parking lot. I had turned on to the road headed towards the exit, and this truck didn't want to stop as I passed him. He blared his horn and acted as if he was trying to clip my tail end as he screeched on the brakes because I had stopped as I soon as he blared on the horn. I guess he was mad because I called his bluff and made him stop instead of slamming on the gas to avoid him. I wanted to give him a piece of my mind. So I rolled down my window and pointed at the yellow line divider, showing how he was in the middle of a road. He completely ignored me as he got out of his truck. As he approached me aggressively, it went through fight or flight syndrome, I'm a fighter by nature so I wanted to just get out and fight him, but this time, I was able to think it out first. I proceeded to just talk reasonably to him, and said that I could fight him and inflict some damage, but thats not something I'd want to do to somebody just because they can't drive worth a crap. Besides with no insurance I'd would press charges and sue you for any damages. Then, I went down the condescending method of explaining how you can't go around acting like that everytime you feel someone cut you off. Violence is no way to solve your problems. He was like, "then what was all that slamming on your brakes about." So, I was like to tell you there is a ROAD HERE. He was like "this is a lane see the arrow over there" He looks down and point over at the arrow, and I point down, and he finally sees the yellow lines dividing the road and the two arrows pointing in opposite directions for each lane of the road, signifying the end of his parking lane. He got in his truck and took off. When things happen like that, its so easy to act on impulse. I really think there is a strong possibility that if I hadn't been treating the A.D.D. I probably would be in jail right now or worse. There was a few moments where I wanted to headbutt this guys face in. I hate having to fight, but I do love the adrenaline rush of it. I'm also pretty good at it, something I've put alot of training into. That's why it is important for me to be keep a calm head and only use it for defense. It is so hard for me to keep my ego in check, because I'm so often underestimated. I feel like I need to prove to them that you shouldn't fight stranger because appearances can be deceiving. Which is probably why so many people end up using a weapon on me. I've been back and forth with the whole nonviolence thing. Its complicated, I always try to minimize offensive blows, but sometimes it backfires on me. I let people up too easy, and they come back at me, and end up grabbing an object to swing or throw at me. I've even had a guy bite my face. I swear, I'd have a huge scare in my face if I hadn't immediate stuck my thumb in his eye socket till he let go. Eww that was so sick. A dirty drunk, with a mouthful of blood. I'm so lucky I gouched his eye before he could break the skin. Fighting is so STUPID. I hate that I'm succeptible to such idiocity. I still get that way with my dad sometimes, even though he has hepatitis C. Wow, this is alot of ranting, anyway, just wanted to share a little success story. I usually fall into fighting, but not this time!! I chose the higher road. I just wish he really knew why I chose it. I kind of think he did. At the end of the conversation, I think he could since that I was actually concerned about his behavior because I've been there and understand how easy it is to lose control and let the rage flow. That's why I kind of felt like a hipocrit for the nonviolence talk.

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