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A place for the ladies to discuss physical and emotional issues, privately.

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Biggest Relationship Issues with ADD/Hd 11 Replies

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51 and finally finding out I have ADD with high anxiety... 3 Replies

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Comment by EmotionGauge on April 21, 2011 at 6:21pm
Yoga is great!!
Comment by melissa Matthews on April 21, 2011 at 4:23pm


It's nice to read someone else has this issue. I think for me it's the "not knowing" what is affecting me today that gets me so frustrated. Not that I could do anything if I knew what it was I guess. LOL  Well today is a beautiful day and I'm off to do yoga.


Take care!

Comment by EmotionGauge on April 20, 2011 at 3:09pm

Hi Melissa-


I relate to many things you've said. I am 36 and have never been married and have no children. I'd love to go back to school but can't really imagine being able to afford it.

I find it very difficult to keep to any exercise routine because I need encouragement and fun. I dance twice a week usually in a class and this helps me because it's something I love to do and because it's both scheduled and there are other people there who are expecting me:) But I could use even more exercise to keep my mood stable.

I haven't found any drugs that've worked for me but then I haven't tried that many yet. When I did, though, I also felt frustrated that they affected me in ways  I didn't plan on - interrupting my sleep etc.

My partner may have ADD himself but it doesn't affect him in the same way it does me. I tend to have larger mood swings and lower self-esteem. This could be just because of the added pressures of being female.

I think that the spiral of wondering whether it's drugs, hormones, weather, situations etc. that's causing depression or anxiety or mood fluctuations can be so frustrating. Sometimes, if I'm able to take a deep breath, I can tell myself that it doesn't matter why? it just is right now. I'm sad, I'm angry, or even.. I'm happy. And that actually always makes it pass quicker.


Comment by melissa Matthews on April 20, 2011 at 2:42pm

Hey ladies,

This is great that this group exists. I have been checking out this site daily and this is the first time I've seen this forum. Of course if I could sit long enough to read anything I suppose I would have discovered it sooner. LOL 

So I'm just going to vent for a moment.  For the past year I feel like I can't get out of my own way, and when i do it feels as though it took a lifetime for me to do so. I was diagnosed about 3 years ago but it took me until last year to really accept the diagnosis. Everyone claims to have ADD so I felt it was overused for a diagnosis. It wasn't until this year that I have finally embraced the fact that I am this way but it doesn't make things any less confusing. I'm 42. I've never been married and I don't have children. My life isn't by any means difficult but it "feels" like I'm the extremely overwhelmed. Mainly due to to poor planning and use of my time. I'm dealing with perimenopause, ADD, depression and anxiety and I feel like a guinea pig with these meds. I'm either tired, euphoric, crying, or foggy. I don't even know when it happened that I became so needy and or out of control. It's like I woke up one day and found myself in this constant state of helplessness. I'm currently back in school to further my education and it's been a bittersweet experience. My fear is that I won't finish, since finishing anything I start is not my strongest suit, which I'm sure many of you can relate. My poor non-ADD significant other just looks at me at times with a blank stare. He can't say the right thing without me biting his head off and then apologizing after. Naturally he's not going to understand.

If I could just figure out whether at the moment if it's hormones or the meds,( or the weather here in New England,) etc that has me in such a funk that day I could deal with the issue and move on but I never know. I'm trying to stick with my exercise regimen because I know it will help but I'm too depressed sometimes to get off my ass and workout. I need to find a workout partner that has a similar schedule....Ugh..  Okay that's enough ranting for one day. I appreciate the opportunity to let off some steam. Hope everyone else is in a better state than I. 

Comment by netta on April 8, 2011 at 11:34pm

i am having such a hard time right now.  i just want someone to talk to, to much to write and not up to it anyway.

i just can't stand this affliction sometimes.  i accept it but have to work so much harder at everything than everyone else ... but i'm sure you know what i mean.  sad, very sad right now.

Comment by Martina on August 25, 2010 at 6:51pm
Thank you Delma :) I am glad that i am part of this beautiful community and can't wait to read all that stories :)
Comment by Delma Sarich on August 25, 2010 at 1:42pm
Welcome Martina,
There are lots of encouraging people here who understand and relate with your concerns. Many of the struggles that you listed are experienced by just being a woman, being a woman with ad/hd seems contribute to them at times. I just want you to know that you are not alone here .
Comment by Martina on August 25, 2010 at 8:30am
I know that on internet i can find some articles, but i want real stories, you know, encouraging ones!!
Thank you!
Comment by Martina on August 25, 2010 at 8:28am
Hello ladies!! I am new, from Croatia.
I think i have ADD and I am struggling with questions.. questions about ladies how it is to be a mom who has ADD, how it is to be a wife with ADD, and how to keep your four walls under your family...
I hope i will get encouraging answers :))
Comment by Sarah Christine Gogstetter on July 24, 2010 at 3:32am
I don't know if this will help anybody else out, but when i cut out high fructose corn syrup out of my diet I stopped having really bad PMS. It doesn't mean I cut out soda or sugar, just HFCS. I drink mexican coke. it is made w/ real sugar. Kosher for passover coke also doesn't have HFCS either.

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