Intake

[CopperzMuze]

So, since Shane has agreed to see someone and get back on medication, we were able to get him an intake assessment for next week. So, we are excited about that and looking forward to that. We both have agreed that he needs to get started with this individually first and then incorporate me at a later date. Now, to just deal with his "tweaking" episodes, going to have to and help redirect him when needed. Have to admit that his "tweaking" drives me insane, but I don't get it and it's noone's fault. I just help him refocus as he has always asked me to do so. My issue with redirecting and refocusing him was that I always felt like he was putting me into the "parent/child" role and I don't enjoy that. I feel like I am and always constantly nagging, like when I ask him if he is working on schoolwork instead of playing his Unreal Tournament game. I know that I need to learn different ways to redirect him so it doesn't come off as nagging and having to constantly be on his back all the time. When he was on medication, I never ever had to redirect him and "bring him back down to reality." He was always on top of things and organized. He did tell me a few weeks ago that he does recognize that he has put me in that "parent/child" role. LOL, when he told me that though, we were fighting and he was mocking me, but he recognizes what I mean by this more now that we are calmer to each other and not interrupting each other. Baby steps is all I ask for.

[Sally]

What a great attitude you have! Baby steps is the key to everything. I went to an ADHD seminar once and the teacher was ADHD, this was funny she was the last one there, late of course and someone in the audience had to tell her she forgot to zip up the back of her dress. Anyway she gaves us a great idea for redirecting ourselves. She sold small stop watches that we could hang around our necks or on the table what ever and we could set them for up to an hours time to remind us to move on. Or reset them. One less job you shouldn't be doing.:)