My son is all about having choice and gets angry when he feels he doesn't have one. For instance he doesn't have the concept of adult authority over his life and fights it constantly with us his parents and his teachers. The choices in life can be hard and I'm trying to teach him that sometimes we have to do what we don't want to do.
Basically responsibility, which his father isn't the greatest model because he isn't very responsible himself and thinks his son will get responsible when he grows up.
I asked my son one day, "What age do you think you get responsibility?" His reply was, "When I become eighteen." I then went on to try and explain to him that he has to learn it a bit at a time, and most people get more and more responsibility with every year of their lives and it is a part of growing up.
I've never thrust chores on him and I've tried to make a chore/allowance deal with him but that didn't last long. Everything has to be a deal with him :( He does pick up his play area as it is his area.
Of course when he complains about me "getting on him" about things, like homework, picking up his dirty clothes, taking his lunch box to the kitchen, etc. - I mention it is my responsibility as a parent to do what I do and I do it because I love him. If I didn't then I wouldn't bother. He's only 10 years old but very smart. Some things he'll negotiate like a seasoned lawyer and some things he'll just have to learn in time.
And speaking of time, I'm very OCD about being on time so maybe some of that will rub off :)