ADHD and Peer Relationships

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Comment by Trina on December 28, 2008 at 3:04am

Bryan, thank you for making this video!!! Not only did it make me understand why I had such a difficult time in school, as I was targeted and tormented a lot but it helped me understand why my son is now a target for harrassment. Recently, he was injured by another child to the point that he has had to have surgery. I now possess some good information that will help myself and my children!!

Comment by Bryan Hutchinson on October 26, 2008 at 2:31pm

HI Cat,

First, your step son have ADHD is not anyone's fault! Let's be very clear about that and as he grows older he will find many things within his ADHD mind which will be of great service to him. The thing about your step son right now is that its part ADHD, but he is also probably very confused and maybe even a little scared. Try reading to him, just you and him, nice little fantasy stories, so that his mind can open up and imagine what you are reading. Then talk to him about how his mind pictures the story. There is no perfect answer about peer relationships for him. Reading your concerns here and on other posts, I think the child needs some tender love and caring. It would do him well to play catch with his father or just go fishing or something like that with him. He will have a difficult time until his self worth, self esteem increases and that's what will eventually enable him to feel more secure around others... I hope this helps... best regards, Bryan

Comment by Cat020304 on October 26, 2008 at 2:07pm

Bryan; I have a question, we find that my soon to be ss can not make peer friends of his own age group at all, he is stuck in a world of little kids from the age of 7 to maybe 10 years of age. We encourage him to make friends and play with the kids from his own class or neighborhood, but we find soon he has done something to offend or start a fight or acts like such a little child the others his age find it strange and weird and if they don't pull away from them as many of them do, they start to pick on him, which he can not handle at all . What can we do to help him mature into his own age as a 14 year old, and grow. If it were just me doing this I would incorporate spritualizm, but his father will have nothing to do with God or church he thinks God let him down years ago when his marriage fell apart and that his son having ADHD is God's fault. So anything you might be able to share is wonderful. Thank you, Cat