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Lonely but can't do relationships
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O.K. I'm going to let my impulsive side free a little bit.I'm a 49 year old male; going to school; working; raising an eight year old; diagnosed a year ago; Adderall works great. But I have come to…Continue

Started this discussion. Last reply by Al Maroon Mar 26, 2013.

Vyvanse? Just started my 8yr old today.
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He has had a couple of teary moments, but not sure how well he slept last night. He's at my ex's this weekend so I'm getting second hand info.Just wanted to hear other's experiences on their first…Continue

Started this discussion. Last reply by Margaret Jun 7, 2012.

Diagnosis = Loneliness? Adjustment and/or reality?
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I have been diagnosed for about a month. Adderall works great. My past life makes sense now.How do I keep from getting stuck in regret and loneliness? I've had many relationships that all have…Continue

Started this discussion. Last reply by K.D.D. Jul 21, 2013.

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K.D.D. replied to Patrick's discussion Diagnosis = Loneliness? Adjustment and/or reality?
"this site is beautiful and such a life saver. I have been diagnosed with a.d.d. and consistently medicated since I was 13 years old. I am also Left Handed and freakishly good at impersonating britney spears and cher. (you can imagine what my room…"
Jul 21, 2013
Pete Sapper commented on Patrick's blog post Lonely but can't do relationships
"Hello Patrick,It seems that you are being torn between two desires - the desire to have alone time and the desire for companionship.The reason you're being torn is because of a limiting decision you've created somewhere along the line that…"
Apr 14, 2013
David Watkins commented on Patrick's blog post Lonely but can't do relationships
"My partner of 8 years ended our relationship 2 months ago after I was diagnosed 8 months ago. It killed me, that he couldn't get his head around the fact that the "mad cow" was at the root of our issues, and found it extremely…"
Apr 10, 2013
Tina Cantrell commented on Patrick's blog post Lonely but can't do relationships
"Patrick...I am sorry that you are dealing with this, but I'm glad to know I'm not the only one that deals with this exact issue. I, too, get so overwhelmed when there is another person added into my routine. I love my children, but I…"
Apr 10, 2013
Bryan Hutchinson commented on Patrick's blog post Lonely but can't do relationships
"I've been there Patrick and Margarent has some great points, she knows what she's talking about. I needed some support and help, too. I was lucky to find a very good therapist who helped me understand myself better. The better I started to…"
Mar 27, 2013
Al Maroon replied to Patrick's discussion Lonely but can't do relationships
"Two things drew my attention in your post: 'So it bugs me that I'm so uncomfortable with this loneliness' and 'It bugs me that I cannot find enough satisfaction in the company of my son to not desire more'. What you expect…"
Mar 26, 2013
Margaret commented on Patrick's blog post Lonely but can't do relationships
"Hi Patrick Sorry to hear that you are lonely. I have been there, and it sucks! As you probably already know if you work in the area of mental health, managing your life with ADHD is very much about balance. We ADDers are often not very good at…"
Mar 26, 2013
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Lonely but can't do relationships

O.K. I'm going to let my impulsive side free a little bit.I'm a 49 year old male; going to school; working; raising an eight year old; diagnosed a year ago; Adderall works great. But I have come to realize that with a limited amount of neural pathways I have only been able to pay adequate attention to a few major things in my life. And if any of those things includes strong emotions which fill a lot of those pathways my number of major focuses in life either drops or I neglect one or all of my…See More
Mar 21, 2013
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Lonely but can't do relationships

O.K. I'm going to let my impulsive side free a little bit.I'm a 49 year old male; going to school; working; raising an eight year old; diagnosed a year ago; Adderall works great. But I have come to realize that with a limited amount of neural pathways I have only been able to pay adequate attention to a few major things in my life. And if any of those things includes strong emotions which fill a lot of those pathways my number of major focuses in life either drops or I neglect one or all of my…See More
Mar 21, 2013
Patrick commented on Nadia's blog post What's with this anger?
"Do we have the same mother? Or just the same family life? I was angry at my dad for years to the point of estrangement. Before I was diagnosed ADD last year, the recurring severe depression plague me my whole life. But to my mother and father it was…"
Mar 20, 2013
Patrick commented on Stephanie Gobler's blog post Dating as an ADDer...
"I see a lot of myself in your post. The way I have looked back on my relationships after being diagnosed last year at the age of 48 is the old computer analogy. I can only run so many programs at once before my hard drive is overwhelmed! And…"
Mar 11, 2013
doug puryear replied to Patrick's discussion Diagnosis = Loneliness? Adjustment and/or reality?
"yes, there is always the regret and grieving - if only i had known this before.  you have lots of good comments here, especially the one from bryan about writing and from jason about a support system- surround yourself with the positive…"
Sep 27, 2012
Amy T replied to Patrick's discussion Diagnosis = Loneliness? Adjustment and/or reality?
"Yes.  I feel everything you just described.  I was diagnosed 10 years ago, but convinced myself that the meds were all I needed, because it isn't fun to open up your ugly past.  But ever since logging onto this site for some…"
Sep 17, 2012
Patrick replied to Amanda's discussion Vyvanse and Cigarettes
"This post caught my eye because when I started Adderall I was smoking some but am now a chain smoker (well a pack a day anyway). I was hoping that the impulsiveness that started my smoking would go away but it has only gotten worse. Trying not to…"
Jun 19, 2012
Margaret replied to Patrick's discussion Vyvanse? Just started my 8yr old today.
"Hi Patrick Glad to hear that things seem to be going well for your son. I agree with Bryan, medicating your child is not something parents come to lightly. And no, pills do not teach skills, but sometimes kids(heck, even adults!) can't learn…"
Jun 7, 2012
Patrick replied to Patrick's discussion Vyvanse? Just started my 8yr old today.
"Thanks Brian for help clarifying that. We are 3 weeks into the Vynase with my son. His behavior has changed somewhat while at my house.He has a much larger capacity to keep himself busy without jumping from thing to thing. He is an only child at my…"
Jun 7, 2012

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O.K. I'm going to let my impulsive side free a little bit.

I'm a 49 year old male; going to school; working; raising an eight year old; diagnosed a year ago; Adderall works great. But I have come to realize that with a limited amount of neural pathways I have only been able to pay adequate attention to a few major things in my life. And if any of those things includes strong emotions which fill a lot of those pathways my number of major focuses in life either drops or I…

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